Selfishness in humanity

Most of the times we are always wrong when we conclude on some issues relating to friends and family especially when we think they are far from us. Most times we think that some of our family members don't even border or care about us. Have you also ever thought of the condition at which the person is? Did you know what is going on through their mind about you?
     Most of the time when we think we are neglected we are not really neglected. There are so many circumstances surrounding the supposed "neglect".
    At times, your financial condition may make your family members or friends to seems to be far from you, especially when you were once financially stable but something happens to shake your financial stability. The obvious is not really the case, your friends or family might also feels because you are not stable financially so there is no need bordering you or even checking on you in other to be able to cope with the challenges of life. Let's think deeply about it, though, am not praying something should happen to our financial stability but even when we are financially stable and some of our family member or friend comes around there is one awkward feeling especially when its not the first time of the person coming for assistance let alone when God tries to test our faith. When it happens that you have been the center point before but suddenly something happens the next point of concentration shouldn't be on the lackadaisical attitude of our family members or friends but our focus should be how to rise on our feet without any distractions from the so called family and friends. Wait, when you are down and you are blaming your families or friends of not coming to visit like they use to do when you were financially buoyant wouldn't you be disappointed in yourself of their discomfort? Will you be ok to see them go without money in their pocket? or have you even ever thought of their own conscience pricking them of your own condition especially of the discomfort their visit or even their call has/will cost you? Let's always put others into consideration, don't let us take appearance for reality. This so called "neglect"  can be done by any of us, it might even be you, and the question is if you have been collecting from a friend or family that you know is financially capable and suddenly something happens, wouldn't you think about what your visit or call will cost that person even if your motive of visiting or calling is not to demand as usual?
     I have heard of so many occasions whereby some people will refuse to pick their calls due to the fact that the caller is financially ahead of them and they think that the call is to make jest of them even when the intention is otherwise, now if such person didn't call you, you will think the person has neglected you meanwhile he or she wanted you to concentrate. For example, one of your friends gained admission ahead of you and you are aware of it, if the person now ask about you though you might give the right answer but after the call what goes on through your mind "she/he wants me to know she/he has gotten admission before me", meanwhile if he/she didn't tell you you will even accuse the person of not telling you about it and even to the point of you saying maybe he/she thinks you are an enemy of progress is why he/she didn't tell you whereas the person is considering what you might feel if he/she unleashes the good news to you.

As you think about yourself consider others too so that you will not make mistakes. So far you know your own mind and relationship with others so also others know themselves and their relationship with you, leave the rest to God