He is confused and urgently needs your advice

Received this message in my email on Thursday 28th May, 2015. And according to the sender he needs advice from every reader...

I am a working class part-time student in a polytechnic situated in a remote area of one of the states in Nigeria who earns nothing more than #20,000(twenty thousand naira only) monthly.

I was lucky to find a very beautiful house whose owner was a relative and was just concerned with having someone who will be taking care of the house.

The house is very good to behold with big compound filled with bushes. The landlord who happened to be a relative of mine stays in the city and only comes home occasionally.

He handed over the house to me and I kept leaving in a four (4) bedroom flat.

Later on, the job of the house became quiet much for only me to cope with and I decided to beg my relative who is the landlord to allow me bring one more person with me so that we can easily keep the house clean.

The job of the house includes cutting of grasses, mopping of the big sitting room and also cooking in the house.

The landlord after series of plea accepted that I should bring just one more person with me that he doesn’t want too much people especially students who will scatter the house for him since he doesn’t need their money.

I then purposed in my mind to find a lady who will be able to help me in the house and not guy who could easily turn something else overnight.

I even thought about the cost effect of living with a lady than a guy which one of my friends concluded that I can still cope at a minimal cost per month since the lady is not my girlfriend.

Luckily for me I found a lady so beautiful, smart and intelligent who is also from my tribe and brought her into the house. She is also working, receiving almost the same peanut like mine but couldn't get an apartment.

With first impression we kept moving on with each other until this raining season came and all the grasses in the compound of the house began to grow.

Let me quickly narrate the story to you.

The summary is that I began the clearing of the compound here on one Saturday and finished it on Thursday of the following week!

That part of the works in this house was one of d reasons I allowed her into this house. There is no much food in the house today and that was one of the causes of d disagreement.

Food shortage has always been  our problem in the house that two or at least one week to the time we will collect our peanut salary food items will have finished that I will  always need to spend extra money before we'll get money to contribute.

Like this month now, I dropped #7,000 for food. She did the buying and I consider it a bad habit for her to come back from the market and I begin to scrutinize all she bought.

So I usually leave her with everything. Soup finished last week. I had to drop additional #500 for another soup on Monday when we couldn't bear it again. Rice totally finished today. I also finished the clearing of bush in the compound today.

I worked so much yesterday and all I ate was small rice and D spagg that she cooked with it. In fact that rice was cooked the night before.

Now after I ate that rice yesterday by 3pm, I was so tired. Around 6:30pm my neighbour went out that I even asked her b4 she told me she was going out probably to look for network.

She didn't return until like 8:30 to 9pm and I was so tired because of the work i did, that I found it difficult to walk down to the kitchen to  cook.
I den decided to drink gari. This morning again I worked so much to ensure that I finished the work of d Bush clearing.

And there was also a program we must compulsorily attend today. I finished the cutting around 8:15am.

And it's a usual thing that she goes out without eating, she mostly eat when she comes back from that particular program.

But with the hard labour I did coupled with the fact that I didn't eat much yesterday despite the job, I couldn't do that with her. And I just quickly went to the kitchen and picked the last quantity of rice to cook for us to manage.

She also came out and was asking me she wanted to collect one application like that from my phone.

Later she said she didn't know how to do the sending stuff on the phone that I should leave the cooking I wanted to do and come send the app to her phone which I sharply replied her that I am busy!

She immediately asked for what I wanted to do and I said I want to cook rice. She was against that! Now before I proceed. I told her yesterday that I'm going to pay someone a visit the next day and I may spend the weekend there.

And the rice that just finished today was the rice I bought for #2150 when one of my younger brothers and his friend were planning to visit me sometimes ago.

I continue:

She said don't cook the rice let's cook indomie. Me that doesn’t like indomie much  coupled with yester night’s hunger plus this morning's hard labour. I insisted I will cook rice.

I would've even grudgingly managed the indomie had it been that she'd cooked it b4 I finish the Bush cutting.

She didn't. So I just washed the rice then  poured it into the pot on fire. She was angry that I shunned her on the request to send an application at the detriment of my own health/stomach.

That was only my perception. She just came to me in the kitchen few minutes later and angrily said "U are cooking that rice being  the last because u know u will not be at home tomorrow so that only me will face the hunger, well, u know what that is called, selfishness"

I laughed within myself. And I was still planning out of my foolishness of over caring attitude to buy small rice for the house from my pocket before going to where i told her i will be going to so that she will have something to eat before i return and before we will get our pay.

When she said what she said, I was tired and hungry and also felt like it's not every statement of ladies one should respond to especially when they are angry.

So I kept moot!
Please, among the two of us who is selfish?

She was reserving the last food for herself and starving me, and not even making the efforts to cover it up by quickly cooking  the indomie before I finished the hard labour of cutting grasses.

So I ate the rice and when I was ready for the place we were going to I called her and she said I should go that she was not ready for the program which she would’ve, on a normal day she will ask me to wait for her, so I went.

While coming from the place I bought another small quantity of rice hoping her statement of me being selfish was just a slip of tongue, She got home before me and I met beans on the fire. She wasn't there when I dropped the rice in the kitchen. The beans got burnt and it was the odour that made me went to the kitchen.

I went into my bathroom to wash the little dirty clothes I had. All of a sudden, I heard a knock on my door and when I answered I heard her just saying I'm going out!

I just thought she was going to a place nearby. It's 10:00pm she hasn't come back. And that shows me that her statement wasn’t slip of tongue.

Even the beans she burnt before going out, I can't find it. It's only the pot I sew.

If I am still selfish, with all that I spend here (where some of my course mates spend #4000 per month) mainly because of her i spend more than half of what i earn

And despite all, to her I’ve done nothing. Not even respect from a person that I’m almost five years older than and not even level mates.

I called her and she said she told me till Sunday!

And it grieved me the more because if anything happens to her will I say she said she was going out?
Is only "am going out" sufficient for a neighbour one assisted to living in the same fancy house with who will spend nothing less than three days outside? Or will a normal person be travelling from today till Sunday and all the person will tell people at home is "am going out?"

I greatly regret accepting her to my home here and it's a great lesson for me.

She will invite her friends and relatives here and I will buy drinks for them.

I've spent too much here just because of her.

She has really fumbled as far as I’m concerned.

She disappointed mi big way.
If she claimed she told me, I don’t know where she has gone to that she will spend about four days.

the house here is a kind of house that none of her visitors has entered without loudly commenting!

In fact two of her friends that called themselves big babes that came last week told her that they thought she used to snap her pictures in another person’s house that they never believed that’s where she's leaving. That she's so lucky.

It pains me so deeply but I'll swallow it. But I think even if I don't use it to act, I need to let her know she hurts me.

She didn't only even say I was selfish. She said I also insisted on cooking d rice because i bought it.

And even the gas we are using now, I still use my personal money to fill it Plus tfare.

please what do you think I can do or what have I done wrong?

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