What You Should Do If You Realize Your Spouse Is Not What You Want After Getting Married?

Like they say, no marriage is perfect just as the two involved are not perfect. However, room to stope the hope of any marriage lies in the relationship, this is why we should have dot all the dots properly before sealing the relationship.

Most times, we overlook the red flags thinking our partner will change forgetting that they have been the way we met them for long and most times it will take miracle for them to change.

However, we are humans, we are bound to make mistakes.

What you can do when you realize your spouse is not who you think they are actually depends on the situation.

First is to look inward if you are not the real problem of the marriage. Because some issues arises when you expect too much from your partner. You need to know that neither you nor your spouse are superhumans and along the line, things we go through can reshape us. You don't need to be the perfectionist, else issue will not stop coming up.

It is also good to have heart-to-heart talk with your spouse in respect to the problem for possible solution. Communication holds major role in the rise or fall of any marriage.

You need to seek counselling from professional marriage counselor. They are filled with experiences that can help you reshape your marriage. However, if one of you is not willing to submit to counseling, then there will be problem.

Furthermore, family intervention should also be looked into. Our parents have more experience than us which can help us with whatever issue we might have, this is why they are called parent.

You also need to give your spouse time to change after considering all the options above, it takes tome to adjust.

Lastly, if the issue is life threatening, please, run for your dear life as it is only the living that loves nor be loved. It is only the living that lives life, it is only the living that understands what survival means. If any of emotional abuse, mental abuse or physical abuse is/are involved, please you really should run before you are trapped.

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