Here Is What Marriage Should Be

This post is in response to the issue in picture above, as in, my personal feeling.

I think the world has gone past the era where men allow the ego to lead the home, marriage is now about team work and not one person wearing the superman clothing all in the name of being the man. We do everything together including paying bills, however, we might do that which belongs to our gender better than the other, but, the priority should be on team work.

She works in Lagos and earns #42M compared to #15M you the proposed husband earns with a bank outside Lagos.

Yes, for a marriage to have high probability of longevity in peace, couple are advised to stay together, especially newly wedded.

But this situation is critical.

If I were the man, I would drop that ego aside... Have a thorough discussion with my wife-to-be on the possibility of the two of us saving large chunk of our salaries for between 3-5 months for a business in Lagos and within that period I will also do some research that will make the success rate of the business to be high.

Once we have made up with savings, I will kick start the business while still maintaining my job, run the two side by side. While on that, I will try start getting info on how to work relocation.

Most times, relocation base on Marriage doesn't work with banks and so many other coys. Though you might get relocation to a state closer to home. Meanwhile, they can decide to still transfer you to another state during marriage, but no harm in trying.

I will plead with her to bare with me for 3-5 months still with the bank immediately after wedding, this is to work on relocation while the business is going on too... Within this period of time, the business should have started yielding reasonable profit.

If within 5 months the relocation didn't work, I will resign and face the business squarely, if relocation works then I keep the job and we keep investing on the business along.

She is earning higher which can go a long way in sustaining the home should in case the man didn't get the relocation approved and then help to raise the business to a befitting standard which might in-turn earn him better than the bank Job which on the other hand neither is bank job nor the oil company job of the wife can give them the kind of security the business can guarantee.

With such idea, it will be a win-win for them. I know to start a business is not easy, but neither is marriage easy, everything about life is risk. What about if the wife leaves her job and shortly after that he was asked to resign, is that not catastrophic?

The woman on the other hand must be ready to submit to the man and give him the honour he deserves as the decision is for the family. The pride has been dealt with as the husband is also earning and her money is also in the business, she wouldn't want to lose it but work to make it great.

All I have said is not easy as I made it look, but it is achievable. I wish they could see this and make use of the little advise.

This will also help some other families if you can add your comment, advise then share this post too.