The possibility of having a crush while in a relationship

We often take crush to be an affection towards opposite sex which in turn lead to relationship with that person meanwhile, the opposite is the reality.

Having crush on someone doesn't mean you are or will be in a romantic relationship with the person.

Crush according to Merriam Webster dictionary is a strong feeling of romantic love for  someone  that is usually not expressed and does not last a longtime.

We will only be deceiving ourselves when we say apart from the one we are married to or having relationship with that we don't have a crush.

The fact that we are humans makes us imperfect and no matter how hard we try to be perfect that is when our flaws will even become more obvious.

Those that their marriage is successful as of today cannot say it aloud that they don't have a crush as this kind of secret is something you will keep to yourself only.

What differentiate men from boys is the control over the feelings.

Like i said earlier, having a crush doesn't make you less human, in fact, it has become the norm not just among men but women too.

Most men cannot resist beauty when they see one, they become imbalance at the sight of an half-dressed lady and start imagining doing all sorts with her.

Same goes for women who cannot resist the sight of a man with 6-packs especially when he is tall, they start imagining how strong he will be in the other room.

This sexual feeling is something that cannot just be said to the face of ones spouse but cannot linger more than the moment it was conceived.

I think it is normal to have a crush but you must learn to control it as fast as possible so that it will not affect the way you think and your plans as what we think most times reflect in reality.

We are not woods neither are we steels, we have feelings and blood running through our veins, there is no way you will see something attractive to the eyes and you will not admire it.

Having crush is not the issue here, disregarding the effect is as important as anything.

Of recent i saw a newly married man who has started having crush, but the truth is that crush is completely different from cheating.

Crush can only turn to cheating when you didn't stop the imagination immediately. Crush does not mean that you will get to the promise land with the person, it is just mere imagination and illusion.

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