Nothing in this world is easy to maintain, not even relation with all the excitements and all. 

Here are some reasons why this is so:

No room for intimacy

When you are single you think you are the only one and you alone should occupy everywhere, but in a relationship, you have to deal with the fact that you are not alone and you will want to ensure you satisfy your partner.

Your thoughts, feelings, emotions are attached and what ever the case may be you get affected especially when we talk of breakup which takes time to heal.

Relationships Need Conflict Management

You were not born by same parents and neither did you grow together. It is combination of two unrelated homes coming together that blends with time.

Without being able to manage conflict the relationship can never stand.

Imaginary expectations

"Your idea of what the perfect relationship should be is never, ever what it’s actually going to be — and “after a while, fabulous first dates and courtship give way to routine and sometimes boredom,” she says. 
To make things worse, couples usually “engage in lots of social comparison, comparing stuff, partners, lifestyles — and that can set a high bar for your own relationship.” If you need to combat relationship fatigue, try to stay as far away as possible from your unrealistic expectations — and comparing yourself to others".

Don't forget we are humans, trying just to abide by a word call "relationship", do not expect too much from your partner as there are so many order words we are trying to abide by at the same time, understanding matters a lot.

Romance Isn’t Supposed To Be There 24/7

The romance in a relationship is meant to be temporary, not all the time like we imagine it to be before getting deep into the relationship.

If you are expecting it to be 24/7 then it is one sure road to exit.

Your job is there and you have other relationships to look after which will also take part of your time.

“Romance, while it can ebb and flow, isn't mean to be there all of the time."

There’s good news, though, “Do you know that feeling where you simply just love being in love? You feel physically better, the sun seems brighter, all is right in the world, and you can't wait to wake up and you don't want to sleep — you just want to talk and be with that special person?”

You can recreate that feeling by manifesting optimism. “By creating a more self-optimistic life, you can actually mirror or mimic the feeling of romance for yourself and with your partner.”

Accept that it won’t be all romance and flowers — and enjoy the special moments you do have. - zen psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategistMichele Paiva

Distractions Are Brutal

There are lots of distractions, from movies to social networks. Friends and families are also there  that can cause distractions in a relationship.

It will be best if you can create schedule for all this especially when you want your relationship to grow.

There are many things on the Internet now-a-days that may want to keep us glued to the facebook, instagram, twitter etc, which we must learn to control.

It’s Too Easy To Take Things For Granted

When we get deep into a relationship we tend to take some things we started with for granted forgetting those things are what makes relationship what it is.

You try to take understanding for fool. 

Those statements, plays and so on you do together becomes normal and things you think you can do without, so you neglect them.

This shouldn't be so. It is a relationship, you must keep doing them as it keeps the relationship alive.

Don't overlook the effect of those things that got your relationship sparkling at the beginning, their impact are so enormous.
Romance Takes Serious Work

“Romance has a life of its own,” New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini. “That’s why you have to nourish it.

After a while, the flow of natural excitement in a new relationship recedes.” But you can do something about it — don’t fret. “Your job is to stimulate it,” she says. “Life is fluid, and so, too, is romance. It doesn’t stay still.”
So you have to get up and feed it. “If you want to maintain romance, you have to work it,” she says.

“You can do this by creating new experiences, rekindling old ones, and looking for deeper, more mature love that is less about a spark than it is about love, respect, sex and caring for each other over the course of the long run.” It doesn’t have to be exciting all of the time — but you both have to show up and want to make things work together.

It’s Hard To Stay On The Same Page

“Since dating used to just be about meeting someone to marry and have kids with and that's not what it's about anymore, it can be hard to be on the same page at the same time,” Stefanie Safran, Chicago's "Introductionista" and founder of Stef and the City.

“In addition, the rules on courting are so blurry, so it's harder to know if you are both on the same page, because there is no rush or pressure to follow any specific path by a certain timeline.”

If you can’t tell if you’re both in search of the same thing, it’s easy for your relationship to fall to pieces. Communicate! This will help tremendously in the long run.

Relationships Don’t Have To Be A Struggle

Relationship should not be hard to handle, it will be hard if you take it hard.

Like i always say that if you take your job to be a job it will be hard at the long run. But if you take it like something fun then you will keep enjoying it.

So also is the relationship, it should be fun ans source of happiness while dealing with other things. 

Relationship isn't hard when you know the rules of the other and you keep them jealously.

Selfishness is one thing that kills relationship, when you put yourself in the shoes of your partner, then,  you will be able to keep the love alive, but if otherwise, it will become a life time struggle.




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My name is Akanmu Bamise Peter, but love to be called bamisepeters. I am a graduate of Olabisi Onabanjo University with B.A(hons.) degree in philosophy. I am very friendly and love meeting new and very intelligent people and love writing. Service to humanity gives me plenty happiness and satisfaction.

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