6 ways to detect an abusive relationship early

When we talk of abuse in relationship it is not just the physical abuse we are talking about here.

There is also emotional abuse which we can also cal psychological abuse and the likes.

In a relationship, there are some actions or words you shouldn't tolerate from the beginning, this is because what ever you accept right from the start will will always be used for or against you immediately or in the future.

Here are some ways to detect abuse in a relationship;

1. When you are not allowed to express what hurts you:

In a healthy relationship, the two involved should be free to share their experience as related to what hurts them.

The moment you are not allowed to share what hurts you with your partner you should be wary of abuse in your relationship.

When your partner start giving excuses all the time for being unable to listen to you, you need to either be ready for an abusive relationship if you want to stay.

2. When you don't have a say in decision making:

You do not need an angel to tell you that you should always involve yourself in the decision making as it affects your relationship.

Any partner who doesn't allow you to be involved in making decision affecting the relationship is prone to abuse you.

3. When you begin to doubt yourself :

This is typical of the abusers. They make you to always depend on them for anything.

They make you believe there is nothing you can do on your own without involving them which also makes you rely solely on them for virtually everything.

The moment you start noticing you have started disbelieving in yourself you need to rethink.

4. The moment you start hearing negative words:

You are meant to respect each other even when you are in relationship. You are not suppose to use negative words on your partner either jokingly or otherwise.

No little or huge abusive word or insult, all are the same so far they can demoralize someone's self esteem.

The moment you start hearing such negative word or statement or insult on yourself or your relatives and you accept them you are bound to be abused uncontrollably.

5. The moment he/she starts raising hand continuously with serious intention to hurt:

I know human beings are prone to make others get angry. But in a relationship you must be able to control your hanger towards your partner.

You cannot hurt someone you love dearly. You cannot want people you love to shed tears uncontrollably, you will not also want them to regret ever loving you.
No matter what you might have done, the day your partner start raising hand against you with serious intention to hurt you and you are unable to curb it you need to run for your dear life.

6. The moment you are being threatened continuously

If you do that you will regret ever loving me, if you do this you will curse the day you met me, if you continue this you will regret ever knowing me...

You are in a relationship doesn't mean you are open to threat. Threat has its own negative effect in humans and it is always negative due to the fear it creates.

You shouldn't allow yourself to be threatened as the day the thread will turn to action will be an unexpected surprise.

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