As a Christ-like woman, what will you do in any of these situations?



Some questions were raised in church today, and as a relationship blogger i am concerned about that which i can really talk about even while asleep. Among those questions are these two:

1. As a Jesus-like woman, what will you do when you find out that your husband and your family nurse are having an affair and whenever he is sick the only healer is the nurse?


2. Your husband, a religious one for that matter has an Alhaja who is pregnant for him, what will you do as a true Christian wife?

I am not a woman so i may not be able to answer this question. However, left to me, when we get to the bridge we shall cross it somehow.

A woman responded that the woman should first ask herself what she has done or what she is doing wrong to warrant such situation before concluding.

We know a Muslim woman may not really count the second question as an issue, but as a righteous woman(a true believer in Christ) who doesn't want to take action that will  displease God, what will you do in this situation?

Your response will definitely help someone and a home as a whole.

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These posts and more on the internet are not meant for couples



In marriage it is said that many distractions will come that can tarnish the future of any union, it is left to the couple to allow this distractions or not.

This days, many posts flood the internet as regards "how to do this", "how to know this", steps to do this" steps to know that" etc in a relationship which is advisable that married men and women should avoid in order to avert issues in the home.


Not that the posts are always not right but because they can do more harm than good as trust is expected to be the foundation of any great relationship.

Here are sample title of some of these posts:

1. Steps to know that your spouse is cheating.
2. How to be sure he/she is your child
3. How to know if your spouse is lying.
4. How to know if your spouse trust you.

Learn to discard any topic(s) related to those above or anyone you notice can cause issues in your home at first sight.

This is because even if you are not having any doubt about your spouse some of this topics can convince and confuse you and at the end you blame yourself meanwhile the writer is in his/her abode enjoying the little amount generated from you reading his/her post in addition with the input of others.

Learn to trust your spouse unless he/she gives you indisputable evidence not to trust them, don't let writers who depends on you being fooled to feast on you because even without them writing it the truth will definitely come out one day.

This is also applicable to those in serious relationship, don't give room for distractions, pray and use your brain when necessary.

I don't see the essence of wrong suspicion or accusation led by what you have read when it can lead to destruction of the home you toiled so hard to build and at the end you blame yourself, don't forget the stain caused may not easily go off and that is if it will completely in case the accusations and suspicions are completely wrong.

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STOP MISLEADING: Those signs are not proof that she is cheating



This is a response to a post  4 Signs Your Wife Is Sleeping With Other Men on Naij.com

I will not say the write-up isn't good, however, some posts can ruin a family and this is one of them.

The writer made this write-up looks like the couple are not even in good terms.
Before i write i think about the impact on the society especially when it comes to relationship as it is fragile, what you will not expect to break a relationship will even over break it and the parties involved might later blame themselves for the separation.

All the points raised in the post is not enough reasons to prove that a wife is cheating as there might be so many other reasons to them.

She has been finding s ex difficult with you or doesn't want to have s ex with you today is not a good reason to conclude she is having nice time with other men outside, what about her mood? What happens to communication? Even if she is extremely good at it, don't you feel your attitude towards her show of pleasure towards you at times might make her change?

When a woman is less concerned about your annoying acts it is just as simple as her getting used to all of your acts and leaving you to exhibit who you are as we always have our annoying moments. What happens to change? Or have you forgotten it is the only constant thing?

What happens to tolerance? Or have you forgotten so fast that tolerance is one huge characteristics of marriage?

Saying she goes out often and comes back happy is as a result of cheating is only applicable when you have a full housewife, of course she is not expected to just leave the house anytime she likes, what will she be looking for?

What happens to the joy that comes with fulfilment of dreams? What happens to the joy that comes when your business is moving forward?

So you mean a man is also cheating if he is going out without reasons and coming back with happiness written all over him?

If you have evidence of your spouse cheating, then, i don't think there is a need for that post anymore, you have seen all the reasons of the world and it is left to you to decide on your future, but before you decide, please give him/her room for explanation.

All the points in the write-up will possibly be valid if the duo are not in good terms as there will be no reason to give reasons for any action.
I will only advise we don't allow ego to kill our home. When one is angry the other should try to calm things down so as not to allow the unthinkable happen. Husband and wife should be ready to forgive each other even before any offence.

Don't conclude your spouse is cheating without concrete evidence. Please be careful of some flimsy signs which might make things worse.


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If you were describing your spouse to someone, what would you say?



MATURE MINDS ONLY

As a blogger, i feel i don't have to do the writing all the time, i feel we can all do the blogging together but commitments to several things we have passion for wouldn't allow us.

I wish many could just share their opinion for all of us to learn new things to help our relationship and to be the best we want it to be.

I know making money is what we all desire, i wouldn't want you to look at this topic as non-profiting but as stress and depression killer. We need to make ourselves happy even when all is not fine with hope it will get better anytime soon.

To the issue of discussion...

I have always heard of people describing their spouse to whoever cares to listen, some descriptions will make you go wow, some will make you to start thinking of your own spouse too while some  others will make you feel like murdering that spouse, as in, making you go haywire, depending on the situation at hand.

Please describe your spouse, mention them if they are on this forum, let us read about what makes you feel you have the best spouse in the whole wide world. Act as if you are talking to your spouse, be emotional as best as you can and forget you have millions of potential readers.

Who goes first? 

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Some popular things people do on Valentine’s day


Happy Valentine’s day to every lover around the globe, our different personal perception especially those who don't share the opinion about every February 14 will not change the purpose of the day for so many who believes in the belief of the day.

Here are some popular things people do on Valentine’s day:

Wear special outfit:

It is a general belief that the colour that suits the day is red and white, therefore, many people use these colours for different designs.


However some couples or some lovers believe otherwise, hence, they chose their own colour and style.

Go for special outing:



This is done by those who cherish their spouse and feel once in a while especially on a valentine's day they need to make their woman feel special by taking them out for dinner, just for the two of them to rekindle their love and to celebrate love.

Buy special gift:



As many believes that the day is meant for sharing gifts among their loved ones they then buy gifts and expect from you in return. During this period is when those that sells greeting and seasonal cards get more orders.

Make marriage proposal:

Many guys take the advantage of this special season to propose to the woman of their desire.


Well, this to some women is not a surprise as they might have seen traces of the man proposing that day, but just as it is a must a man propose to his wife-to-be so also is it for the woman to open their mouth in surprise to the proposal just to make the man feel special among other men.

Eatery becomes most visited place:

This is common among the young ones who don't really know what love nor valentine is all about but want to be part of history.


Little wonder some guys run away from their girlfriend during this period as these girls believes it is a day their guy must buy something for them.
On Valentine’s day is when an eatery that is as quiet as a grave yard becomes super arena for the sake of love.

Love making day:

Winks to the married folks as the celebration mostly end in the bed, is serves as the stamp or signature for the celebration.



Some women in love tend to fall prey to guys who believes the day is for not just showing love but making love and at the long run they become pregnant for their St. Valentine who might not accept it.

Ladies like this get the reward of celebrating the day and it will forever be a day to remember.

The common things are not limited to those in the list, feel free to add yours.

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FIVE GIFT IDEAS FOR VALENTINE AND WHERE TO GET IT ONLINE


It is the season of love and just to help you out with some gift ideas for that special someone, we made this list:
1. Perfume gifts:
Did you know that pheromones are exchanged in between humans when people are literally falling for each other, naturally humans may not be able to perceive the aforementioned scent maybe because its the pure aura of passion but the point is, scents in a similar way, registers its aura in our brains thus causing a stimulation to either love or hate the personnel wearing it, with the above in consideration, we have specially chosen perfumes that will make your spouse or loved one(s) thank you till the end of the year. Apart from research confirming these claims above, offering perfumes as gift during valentine season can be one of the most romantic gestures, as they say, love is in the air, we say, inhale its good scent. Visit the valentine shop for amazing perumes NOW.
2. Scent machines:
Seriously, what is a scent doing on the list? well, if you are a lover of brand recognition that wants your customers or even your home to smell great this loving season, scent machines are great solutions to purge your space of unwanted smells that drives away good notions. A wise man once said, if you want to live great, the first scent you perceive early in the morning has a great way to influence your day. Air freshners may not likely work for large hall and event centers anymore, but hey, space scenting machines are now available to the rescue, (POLARIS) one of our machines can cover over a whooping 5000m2 area while consuming just a little in any essential oil used with it. You can order yours at a giveaway price here.
3. Romantic/greeting card:
Did i hear you say its outdated? For the sake of anonymity, one of our clients happily shared with us that his wife, got a customized & handwritten love letter with flowers and perfume oils to her office, she was so happy at the gift idea from her husband, he said his wife recounted that she couldn’t stop smiling while looking at the romantic letter, why? she said that it was the least thing everyone was thinking about because people perspective about love has changed due to social media, but hey, Its the 21st century, it doesn’t hurt to try this, it might be just the spark needed to colour up your love live, as you already know, life is in colours. Call 08020715961 to Order your greeting card here.
4. Valentine Hampers:
Most people love variety with a class, this is where hampers can amplify the volume of how you care about someone, with your spouse’s or loved one’s favorite colour(s) at heart, gourmets, wines, perfumes and bespoke boxes can be used to make royalty-looking hampers. 
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REASONS WHY VALENTINE'S DAY IS DIFFERENT FROM ANY OTHER DAY FOR LOVERS



It is known all around the world that February 14 is a general day to celebrate and show love especially to one's partner.

You may possibly say that you show love to your partner everyday or you don't need someone to dictate when to show or celebrate love to you, so, February 14 isn't special.

Just like Xmas and new year celebration, February 14 brings unity into the celebration and show of love.

Yes, many young female get pregnant on valentines day after being carried away with the excitement of the day while some get disflowered and some other disadvantages of the day to those who don't know what they want yet.


However, Valentine's day should be a special day for married couple or those in courtship to rekindle the feeling between them. This rekindling is not necesarily through copulation.

So far the day is generally known to be lovers day then, you must give your partner(especially the female) something special to talk about with their friends, they must not just hear but be able to share the experience.

The Valentine’s day is also a day you can show appreciation to your partner for who he or she has been to you right from the first day of the relationship for those who really know what it means to love and be loved.


The support, companionship, agreements and disagreements, offspring, protection and provision even in the thick and thin is worthy of appreciation for those who know how hard it is to give and receive all these attributes.

If you don't know, the Valentine’s day is also capable of reuniting broken homes because of the emotional feelings attached to it.

It is not just to celebrate the day with one's loyal, ever supportive, ever loving and ever caring partner but to celebrate it rightly, utilizing every opportunity to make it up to him/her especially if you have deprived them of something they have truly deserved for long this period makes it different. 

If you don't have a partner to share this moment with you shouldn't border too much as there are lots of people you can show happiness. 

Look around you, your neighbors and friends are there, you can also visit the motherless home to show love to those who really needs it, though they might be expecting people to come show them love, however coming from you who they never knew makes the difference. 

The Valentine’s day is one of the best days to stylishly make your intentions known to that lady or man as you can hide under the intention of the season. 

The season is not just for you to show love to your partner but to put smiles on many other people's faces the little you can, thereby making yourself happy at the end.  


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Valentine’s day is not for women alone


Now it is very clear that woman cannot feel special without man, little wonder they are created from man's ribs.

Not just the Valentine’s day, during xmas and new year celebration many ladies believes it is the day their man must give them unforgettable treat not considering his pocket nor how good he has been from the first day of the relationship.

Some men are also of the opinion that it is a most they prove they are in control of the relationship, therefore, they need to show it.

Little wonder some kids end their relationship during this period with flimsy excuse when they cannot perform their presumed control of the day financially.

Personally, i think you are degrading yourself when you expect that a man must be the one to give you the unforgettable treat these special days as life is about give and take, and as a man, you are still a kid to have thought that it is only your duty to make the special day worth while. 

Some woman will not even care about what you have or how you will get the money to give her the best treat, all she knows is that she must be treated specially that day.

They believe that for a day to be special, then, it must be made special indeed for them by their man.

Not that it is not good, at least, the man will get the opportunity of being the head of the relationship, however, men too deserves to be treated like a king during this periods.

Not that the man should not do his duties, however, she should also make you feel special in her little way after all they say what a man can do they(women) can do better.

It shouldn't be a day the man will be filled with the thought of "why am i a man and not woman?"

It shouldn't be a day the man will want to do all he can to dodge from his "responsibilities", not because he does not love you, but the resources to show how much you are cherished is scarce even after always doing the right thing when the resources are available.

If a man can do all in his capabilities to make a woman feel special once in a while or on these special occasions, a woman must also do at least little in reciprocal.

Showing appreciation for the love if not for anything whatsoever is something that can make the man too to feel special.

A good woman who knows the value of a good man will not wait for special days to show appreciation to the man for his love and care.

These special days should be utilised by any good wife/lady to show appreciation no matter how little and to make the man proud of being a good man/husband as it is never easy to be one.

The truth is that, this good men don't wait till special days like the xmas, new year nor Valentine’s day to show you how important and special you are in their life.

They treat you like a queen everyday, even those special days no matter how they make it look special you still see it as their usual show of love, so why not use this special days for appreciation instead of still hoping they spend more on you.


Even if he has prepared the world for you on these special days, it is important you also have your special plans for him too, he deserves to feel special too.

If you have a special man you will understand better that it is women that should utilize the special days more than the men as everyday is special for a good man to his wife.

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Reasons why he will not forgive you when you are caught in the act



If you have a caring, understanding and a loving man i don't think you need to do anything to hurt his feelings.

Many women wonder why men find it difficult to forgive them when they are caught in extra marital relationship.

Despite the fact that it is assumed to be normal for men to be free donor and cheat, they(men) find it difficult to forgive their woman if reverse is the case let alone forgetting because they will always be demoralized anytime they remember what they caught the woman doing.


No matter how bad you may be sexually, your man still cherish it and cannot afford to see or hear  you share that "bad" moment with another man let alone when you(woman) are perfect in bed.

In the case of rape when he even knows it is out of your control he still finds it difficult to get it out of his head.

... The way you moan or groan when you show love to each other, your  moves in reaction to the good time, the way you kiss each other passionately and the romance...

I repeat, that special moments are indeed special to any man that truly loves you.

If you think... The good food you cook, the time you share together to talk or to play and even to argue or fight... are less important to him, the day you are caught in the act will define your unreserved significance in his entire life.

It takes an herculean task for a man to forgive his woman after catching her in the act.


A man who is not fully committed to the relationship will find it difficult to forgive a cheating wife let alone will the man that knows the worth of a good woman accept, forgive or forget a woman caught in the act.

Please don't play on your man's intelligence, he might be slow to anger but he is deadlier than snake if you are caught in the act.

It is very possible you are forgiven, however, it is advisable to be loyal.

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Finding your partner in the religious home is not a guarantee for good home


Relationship and religion might have one or two things together, however, we must not make religion get into our head and deceive us that it is from that same home of worship we will get the best partner.

Don't be deceived that our religious leader knows someone very well to the point of prescribing a partner to you.
The only thing you need from any religious leader is the counselling and their prayers.

I think the world has gotten to a stage where no one can even vouch for another because the rate of pretence when we talk about relationship is very high.

Don't be deceived, that the brother is very nice to everyone or the sister is very beautiful, intelligent and respectful will culminate to a good home if you can have him/her as partner.

I am not saying you cannot get your life partner in your place of worship nor that when you get your partner in your place of worship will not guarantee good home.

All i am saying is that you shouldn't let a man of God use his/her influence to force someone on you.

Even those married to some of this religious leaders can tell you what they are going through with the choice of their own partner let alone them forcing one on you.

Living with someone doesn't mean you know that person completely let alone seeing that person once or twice in a week.

Only those in marriage can share the beautiful and ugly experiences to you.
I have seen some homes that started from the same place of worship but it is new war each day.

Religious leaders shouldn't get themselves involved in the beginning of any relationship because the definition of human is beyond the appearance.

If you fall in love with someone in the same place of worship; fine, if not, just look somewhere else instead of allowing a man of God to tell you this brother/sister will be the best for you.

Don't forget that you will face the sweet and bitter experience alone when the religious leader might be tearing chicken in his/her house.

At times, they are right with their prescription, of course, it is 50-50 chances, but don't ever conclude that getting a partner in the same place of worship or a partner prescribed by a religious leader will guarantee a happy home.


Use your head my brothers and sisters, you can make great decisions on your own when you believe in yourself, be prayerful too the prayer you say to your God can also be acceptable to your creator. 


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